And then closed the tab before anyone saw. Here's the honest part nobody says out loud: no website can tell you whether he's an alcoholic. Neither can a checklist, and neither can I. But you can stop guessing about what you're living with — and that's the question you can actually answer tonight.
Take the 1-minute check-in I already know. What now? →You're outside the thing you're trying to measure. He tells you it was two. You found four. He was fine at dinner and gone by ten. You've spent months building a case in your head and then talking yourself out of it by morning.
That's not you being unfair or dramatic. It's what happens when the only information you get is filtered through the person you're asking about.
So put the label down for a minute. It isn't the useful question.
The useful question is: what is this doing to your life? The counting. The bracing. The way you plan your evening around his mood. You don't need a diagnosis to know that's real, and you don't need his permission to do something about your own side of it.
The check-in asks you plain questions about what's actually happening — not about him, about you and the life you're living with it. No signup. No email. No result gets stored against your name.
At the end you'll have language for something you've been carrying without a name. That's worth a minute even if you never do another thing.
Take the 1-minute check-inIt won't diagnose him. Nothing on the internet can. It'll just tell you the truth about your own answers.
Some of you didn't need the check-in. You've known for a year. What you actually need is somewhere to put it.
Every app about drinking is built for him. This one has a section built for you:
You don't need him to agree to any of this. Your side works whether he ever starts or not.
Show me the part built for me More on living with his drinking →If you're in crisis, or you've had thoughts of hurting yourself, please talk to a person tonight — not an app. Call or text 988 (US), any hour, free and confidential.
If you're afraid of him — not just hurt, afraid — the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. You don't have to be in danger tonight to call. You're allowed to call just to ask whether what you're living with is normal.
And if you're worried about what happens to his body if he stops drinking suddenly, that's a question for a doctor, not a website. Ask one before he quits cold.
Built by someone who was on the other side of this for 38 years. The app is free to start. On Android, get it on Google Play.